In Chinese culture, there is a complex system of titles for family members and relatives compared to English-speaking countries. In this article, you will find everything you need to de-mystify your tea ceremony process!! The intricacies of what to call who when you are presenting your tea ceremony is important for the respect it holds, but it does not need to be over-complicated (especially after the door games)!

Simplified (for our own sanity) below, Chinese Family Titles for the Chinese Wedding Tea Ceremony.

Hope this helps you too! With Love ,

Xox Just Oscar and Bello

Immediate Family

爸爸(bà ba): dad; 父亲(fù qin) (formal)

妈妈(mā ma): mum; 母亲(mǔ qīn) (formal)

哥哥 (gē ge): older brother

姐姐 (jiě jie):older sister

爷爷(yé ye): your father’s father (paternal grandfather); 祖父 (zǔ fù) (formal)

奶奶 (nǎi nai): your father’s mother (paternal grandmother); 祖母(zǔ mǔ) (formal)

弟弟 (dì di):younger brother

妹妹 (mèi mei): younger sister


Grandparents & Great Grandparents

姥爷 (lǎo ye): your mother’s father (your maternal grandfather);
外祖父(wài zǔ fù) (formal)

姥姥 (lǎo lao): your mother’s mother (your maternal grandmother);
外祖母(wài zǔ mǔ) (formal)

太爷 (tài yé): the father of your paternal grandfather or grandmother (your paternal great-grandfather)

太太(tài tai):the mother of your paterrnal grandfather or grandmother (your paternal great-grandmother)

太姥爷(tài lǎo ye):the father of your maternal grandfather or grandmother (your paternal great-grandfather)

太姥姥(tài lǎo lao):the mother of your maternal grandfather or grandmother (your maternal great-grandparents)

Paternal Grandparents’ Relatives

姑奶奶 (gū nǎi nai):the sister of your paternal grandfather
姑爷 (gū yé):the husband of the sister of your paternal grandfather

大爷 (dà yé):the oldest brother of your paternal grandfather
大奶奶(dà nǎi nai):the wife of the oldest brother of your paternal grandfather dad’s.
If he is the second oldest, he is called 二爷 (èr yé), and his wife is called 二奶奶(èr nǎi nai), and so on.

姨奶奶(yí nǎi nai):the sister of your paternal grandmother
姨爷 (yí yé):the husband of the sister of your paternal grandfather

舅爷 (jiù yé):the brother of your paternal grandmother
舅奶奶 (jiù nǎi nai):the wife of the brother of your paternal grandmother

Maternal Grandparents’ Relatives

姑姥姥 (gū lǎo lao): the sister of your maternal grandfather

姨姥姥 (yí lǎo lao):the sister of your maternal grandmother
姨姥爷 (yí lǎo ye): the husband of the sister of your maternal grandmother

舅姥爷(jiù lǎo ye):the brother of your maternal grandmother
舅姥姥 (jiù lǎo lao): the wife of the brother of your maternal grandmother

Your Father’s Side

伯伯(bó bo)or 大爷(dà ye): the older brother of your dad
伯母(bó mǔ) or 大娘(dà niáng):the wife of the older brother of your dad
叔叔 (shū shū): the younger brother of your dad
婶婶(shěn shen):the wife of the younger brother of your dad
姑姑(gū gu): the sister of your dad
姑父(gū fu):the husband of the sister of your dad

Your Mother’s Side:

舅舅 (jiù jiu):the brother of your mum
舅妈(jiù mā): the wife of the brother of your mum
姨 (yí):the sister of your mum
姨父(yí fu):the husband of the sister of your mum
表妹夫(biǎo mèi fu): the husband of the daughter of the sister (or brother) of your mum or of the sister of your dad, if the daughter is younger than you
表姐夫(biǎo jiě fu):the husband of the daughter of the sister (or brother) of your mum or of the sister of your dad, if the daughter is older than you

Your Husband’s Family

公公 (gōng gong): the father of your husband
婆婆(pó po): the mother of your husband
大伯子(dà bǎi zi):the elder brother of your husband
大伯嫂(dà bǎi sǎo):the wife of the elder brother of your husband
小叔子(xiǎo shū zi):the younger brother of your husband
小婶子(xiǎo shěn zi):the wife of the younger brother of your husband
大姑子(dà gū zi):the husband of your elder sister
小姑子(xiǎo gū zi):the husband of your younger sister

Your Wife’s Family

岳父(yuè fù)or 丈人(zhàng rén):the father of your wife
岳母(yuè mǔ)or 丈母娘(zhàng mu niáng):the mother of your wife
大舅子(dà jiù zi):the elder brother of your wife
大舅嫂(dà jiù sǎo)or 大妗子(dà jìn zi) :the wife of the elder brother of your wife
小舅子(xiǎo jiù zi): the wife of your younger brother
小妗子(xiǎo jìn zi) :the wife of the younger brother of your wife
大姨子(dà yí zi):the elder sister of your wife
小姨子(xiǎo yí zi):the younger sister of your wife

Cousins

堂兄(táng xiōng): your father’s brother’s son, who is older than you

堂弟(táng dì): your father’s brother’s son, who is younger than you

堂姐(táng jiě): your father’s brother’s daughter, who is older than you

堂妹(táng mèi): your father’s brother’s daughter, who is younger than you

表哥(biǎo gē): your father’s sister’s son, who is older than you

表弟(biǎo dì): your father’s sister’s son, who is younger than you

表弟(biǎo dì): also, your mother’s sibling’s (brother or sister) son, who is younger than you

表姐(biǎo jiě):your father’s sister’s daughter, who is older than you

表姐(biǎo jiě):also, your mother’s sibling’s (brother or sister) daughter, who is older than you

表妹 (biǎo mèi):your father’s sister’s daughter, who is younger than you

表妹 (biǎo mèi): also, your mother’s sibling’s (brother or sister) daughter, who is younger than you

表嫂(biǎo sǎo):your father’s sister’s son’s wife.

表嫂(biǎo sǎo):also, your mother’s sibling’s (brother or sister) son’s wife.

Nephews and Nieces

侄子(zhí zǐ):the son of your brother
侄女(zhí nǚ):the daughter of your brother
外甥(wài shēng):the son of your sister
外甥女(wài sheng nǚ):the daughter of your sister

In-laws

嫂子(sǎo zi):the wife of your older brother
弟妹 (dì mèi): the wife of your younger brother
姐夫(jiě fu):the husband of your older sister
妹夫(mèi fu): the husband of your younger sister

As always, thank you for reading! To all of you out there also newly engaged, congratulations!! Do you have any handy tips and tricks about staying organised with your wedding planning?

Or, perhaps you are planning remotely? Making your wedding an epic holiday with a destination wedding like us?!

Well, we are right in the thick of it and would absolutely love to hear from you too! So drop us a line!

With Love ,


Xox Just Oscar and Bello

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